Actually, I am a stress management expert but I don’t believe in stress management. I believe in stress release, turning off the fight/flight/freeze/please responses and choosing an appropriate response. To choose that appropriate behaviour read on.
Need help turning off the overwhelming stress and removing the buttons so you don’t get triggered?
Adopting the right mindset is very important.
The way that you react to various stress triggers is affected by your mindset. We don’t have control over many of the things that come at us. We can take control over the subconscious response that is triggered and then causes us to respond with high levels of stress.
Your mindset will determine how you react to stress triggers.
Many people seem to be stressed out by the smallest of problems. When you have the right mindset for stress management you can prevent many of your stress triggers from overwhelming you.
You can choose the appropriate response once you have turned off the adrenaline fueled fight/flight. If you deal with the buttons and remove them, they can’t be pushed. It is possible to simply drain the fighting power out of the past experiences. Take Charge will guide you through the process.
Self-nurturing often involves consideration of many different needs. You may need some facets of your self-nurturing routines more often than others.
For example, after a particularly long day at work versus a usual day at work, you may require some extra focus and attention on yourself at the end of your long day. However, no matter what happens in your life, you should always strive to meet your “bare minimum” self-nurturing needs.
Think of your bare minimum self-nurturing needs as your baseline. Even when you’re feeling your worst or experiencing an extremely wild day, you will still make sure you’re meeting those bare minimum self-nurturing needs.
See Problems as Opportunities
One of the most powerful mindset changes that you can make is to see problems as opportunities. Most stress sufferers tend to see all problems as negative things and they are quickly overwhelmed by the smallest of challenges. If this is you then you need to make a change to your current mindset.
You need to accept that you will always experience problems in your life. Some of these problems will be small and others will be big. Look at all of these problems as opportunities for you to learn new skills and increase your comfort zone. As you solve more and more problems this will become easier for you. With a mindset that sees all problems as opportunities, you will relish problems so that you can become a better person. This will reduce your stress significantly.
Adopt the Acceptance Mindset
Adopting a mindset of acceptance will make you feel more relaxed. People with high levels of stress will often experience negative thought spirals. Some believe that bad things are always happening to them and this elevates their stress continually.
As the name suggests, an acceptance mindset means that you will “accept” that things are always going to go wrong in your life. You will not be as stressed as before when things do not turn out the way that you want them to.
With all of the decisions that you make you need to accept that there will be consequences. If you have an acceptance mindset then you will be more prepared if things do not turn out as you expected. This will help to reduce your stress and keep your frustration levels low.
Adopt a Growth Mindset
Adopting a growth mindset will help to reduce your stress. A growth mindset will compel you to accept all challenges that life has for you and believe that you will grow as a person when you tackle your problems.
Believing that problems provide you with the opportunity to grow is going to help in reducing your stress. You will not be overwhelmed by any problem that you face. These will all be challenges for you to assist in your growth.
Evaluate your Current Mindset
Before you make any changes to your mindset you must evaluate your current beliefs. The best way for you to do this is to ask yourself the right questions. Your answers will tell you where your current mindset is at.
Here are some examples:
- Do you think that stress starts in the environment/people around you?
- Do you believe your past is controlling your present and you can’t change what happened?
- Do you believe that stress will make you less productive?
- Do you react to the stress others are emoting around you and can’t stop tuning into it?
- Do you believe what you think, just because you think it?