𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐥𝐦?
We tend to think about what something is in terms of what it is not. Calm to us often means a 𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳, 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘹𝘪𝘦𝘵y.
I want you to instead think of what calm is, instead.
Calm is defined as the 𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐓𝐄 𝐎𝐅 𝐁𝐄𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐥 𝐨𝐫 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐞𝐭. I use the terms “𝘌𝘈𝘚𝘌 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘎𝘙𝘈𝘊𝘌” because it so beautifully describes what calm creates inside you.
Calm is an internal process, and, like many other states of being, creates the lens you look through to everything else in your life.
For example, if you are in a state of worry, everything around you looks worrying. If someone talks about money, you worry whether you have enough.
If someone talks about being sick, you worry about your own health.
Worry begins to take over your life.
This is why being in control of what emotional state you are currently in is so essential to your well-being.
You absolutely must be aware of your inner state of being, especially if you are a high achiever with lots of goals and ambitions.
After all, you are wrapped up in being busy, and if you are honest, a pretty chaotic life.
The last thing you need if for your internal state of being to 𝑠𝑝𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑟𝑒𝑓𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑖𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑟 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑜𝑠.
We see many clients who have a great outer state so that no one knows there is chaos inside. However that tension of holding the outer while the inner is chaotic is very draining and leads to outbursts. Often high level people look so together but at home they are anything but calm, peaceful, harmonious and satisfied.